How to feel Good With your Body-Starts from the Mind.
No matter how beautiful or handsome you are, you can never really feel comfortable with yourself, if you don’t have a positive mindset about yourself. Feeling beautiful or handsome or great about our body comes directly from the mind and contributes more on how we let people treat us and how we allow others to look at us.
Hello welcome to Fashion and Beauty immix and I am going to be telling you based on my story on what to do to feel good with your body and to be able to feel comfortable in your skin.
We all are different and we come from different background and grew up in different environments that influenced us differently. Our environment while we grow up is a primary factor that contributes to how we see things and how we think and it may either boost our confidence or shatter it.
So pay close attention to what you must do to boost your confidence in yourself and how to feel comfortable with yourself enough to feel good with your body.
You must learn to love yourself
Loving yourself is the primary thing you should to in order to feel good with your own body. People can’t treat and deal with you more than you treat and deal with yourself.
People won’t see that you have a great body, if you don’t see it yourself. Rather, even if others see that you have a great body, so long as you do not see it yourself it won’t matter.
A Bit of my story: I was someone who didn’t love myself and I was always drowning in self-pity. I was not bold to do anything else except when I am singing. Sometimes I will close my eyes till when I finish singing so that I won’t see the faces of the people looking at me. I would shy away from conversations and rather sit quiet because I knew I wouldn’t have anything to say or won’t be able to sustain a conversation. So here is what I did and recommend you to do;
1) Make a decision: The first thing I did was make a decision to love myself unconditionally. I am sure, if you are reading this now, you have made that decision too or at least are at the verge of making one. I decided to change. Came to realize now that decision has changed my life for the best and I am finally living the life that I want to live.
2) Take a look at yourself: The next thing you want to do is to take a good look at yourself. I’m not just talking about mean your physical body only, I mean who you are as a person. Physically, spiritually, emotionally and everything else that states who you are as a person. Some of us love to get to know other people but we know so little about ourselves. This is because we want other people to pay attention at us while we don’t pay that attention to ourselves.
Someone ones told me “YOU CAN’T LOVE SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW” I agree with this statement. Imagine you fantasize about someone then when you get to know the person for who they are you are disgusted about them, would you say you love that person?
3) Accept your pain, deal with it and move on: Now one way or the other, we haven’t loved ourselves for this long for one reason or the other. Now you have seen yourself, who you are, who you represent and what made you act in the ways you do i.e if you have really looked. If you can’t answer certain question about yourself without saying Ehmm! then you haven’t really looked at yourself and get to know you.
Now all those issues you have had in the past, are all in the past now. Don’t allow any issue unresolved. Take days, weeks and even months dealing with those issues. If you need to forgive someone, you must forgive and remember you are not forgiving them because of them, you are forgiving them for your own sake. It’s not about those who have hurt you, this is about YOU!
Now it is time to let all that go. It might still be painful but you have to decide not to let it hold you back anymore. It is from this that you will get inner peace and that inner peace is what you need to start anew. To be who you are meant to be and you are limitless as a person.
4) Practice telling yourself “I Love You”
Now you are a human being. How you feel and react to yourself is not going to be turned off or on just like that. You must plant that love from your heart to your mind then your whole body will respond to it. This is you feeding yourself that information just as you want your loved ones to tell you they love you every time they can. That gives you assurance and a reminder right?
Now every morning and evening or any time in the day you choose, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself “I love You”. For example, I will always look at myself in the mirror and say I love you Lerakinz. It is important you call your name. Say it out loud. Do this as a routine.
Be genuine about it. Now we are ready for the next step.
Accept and embrace your Flaws
Now you love yourself but you are still human you have not suddenly become perfect. We all have our flaws that is one of the things you must have in mind.
I am someone who loves to shy away from people even if they are showing me concern, that’s a flaw. I have some scars on my body I’m not just talking about even know how I got them, that’s another flaw compared to someone with a smooth body. I’m not just talking about know about your own flaws or weaknesses but you have to accept them and embrace those facts about you.
Make peace with them and tell yourself it is okay. This is my body, I accept how I look, I accept my skin tone, I accept my oily skin. In life and in any business, to solve a problem you must first accept that there is a problem before you can start looking for solutions.
Now remember that this is your body, some of these flaws you will be able to fix over time and some of them you won’t be able to fix them. THAT IS OKAY! You love you right? you accept you right? if the answers to these questions is yes then that is the right attitude.
When love and accept yourself and your flaws others will do too and it won’t be a weakness in the eyes of people it will be a strength because you become too confident and people find confidence appealing.
Work on yourself and stay healthy
This stage is very important. You love and have accepted yourself and all your flaws and weaknesses. Now is time to make some improvement about yourself. What are the things you looked in your life that you didn’t like? Now is the time to work on them.
If you have acne, too fat, unhealthy habits that affects your body and makes it look unattractive, you know yourself better. Work on them and find solution to them. There are lots of beauty and healthy tips on the internet, books, forums, conferences and many other forums that are there to help and you improve.
You should know that there are lots of people out there going through the same thing that you are going through or even worse. So you are not alone. The truth is even me writing this post, I am not so different from you there difference might be in the ways we handle different situations.
I have been there and I am telling you it is all going to be alright if you follow the above advice.
Learn to not have doubts (Be Confident)
Now confidence is the one thing that you should never give up on or the one thing you can not, not have. Now when I was a shy girl, like I said above I could only do one thing with boldness, sing! Every other thing which was not singing I was clumsy. Giving someone waters to drink, cooking in front of people, going to hand my documents in an office, looking at myself as beautiful when someone compliments my beauty, you can keep going.
Now that you love and accept yourself that is going to boost your confidence about your body and other aspects you used to have doubts on. Confidence is key to sell yourself and make others respect you for who you are. You are beautiful/handsome whether others see it or not.
Confidence is going to help you
- Achieve things faster than when you were shy
- Command people to accept and respect you for who you are
- Make people to find you attractive
- Will make you not easily shaken when someone throws a bad attitude or word at you
- You will have a better relationship with people
- You won’t just be the ordinary you, you will be the extraordinary you that will make people look up to you
We all have our own struggles (Conclusion)
In all in this post I am trying to say that, if you fix the mindset (inside) you have the best chance of fixing the outside and
this fix won’t be temporary. I used to be someone who didn’t feel beautiful, then I made a decision to change that. I listened to Oprah and some Other motivational speakers, followed their advice and right now, I love myself and I am beautiful inside and outside.
Keke Palmer is the one that got me to boost up my confidence with a statement she said “Fear is not real” and now, my body and soul knows that I have improved and will keep improving. So you are beautiful/handsome.
So I have said all I have to say is and now it is time for you to tell me what you think and I will be so happy to know you learnt one or two things or have other angles at looking at this topic. Just leave me a comment.